#14 - Not Having FOMO, Overcoming Anxiety & Alcohol Use Disorder, Losing 30lbs in 7 months
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On today's episode, you get to hear from one of the most energetic people I've ever met. She exudes positivity wherever she goes, despite having gone through personal challenges, such as the passing of her dad moving across the country multiple times for a job she loved and the influence of relationships and the sacrifices you make for those relationships, whether they be friendships, romantic relationships, or otherwise, really excited to share this one with you guys.
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Right on today's episode, I sit down with a lovely Alyssa Anderson. She has an amazing positive energy. And you'll hear it from the moment she comes on the mic. She's a social media influencer, pursuing acting, and currently a co host of the approachable podcast with her best friend Samantha now in its second season. Want to let you guys know about the text community that is steadily growing now. This is The FIT UNITED Podcast VIP. As you know, my goal is to connect us all on a deeper level through conversations here on the podcast, but also between each other. Once you're part of the VIP, you get access to exclusive content from me as it rolls out. And I'll let you know ahead of everyone else have new episodes coming out. The best part is it's free. And you and I can keep in touch directly simply through text. All you have to do is text fitness to 69922. That's it. I've got a super important question to ask. You there, you'll laugh when you see it. So text me now, fitness 269922 I want to say thank you to this episode's sponsor fit track. Fit track is a Health app company that is disrupting the health and fitness industry right now, with their smart scale and smartwatch. They provide you with personalized information that is essential to helping you achieve your fitness goals. Now I get it. As a personal trainer, I know a scale can only tell you so much. And just looking at your weight is not the best indicator of your health. But the track deira scale is different. using advanced dual bioimpedance analysis technology, you are able to track 17 metrics that help you get a better understanding of your body's composition. Sinking it with the fit track app, the fit track daris scale tracks measurements such as muscle mass, fat, mass, bone mass, even your hydration levels, and you can see your progress over time. The scale even syncs up to Apple Health and Google Fit Another great feature is that you're able to create multiple users so that you and your family members can share the scale and track your own individual progress. Now, how cool is that, but this scale even has infant mode. All right, as your little one grows, you can track and monitor their health as well. My son Cruz is now nine months old, and his first few weeks he wasn't gaining the amount of weight as fast as we would have liked. Now, this would have been much easier to track if we had the fifth track dare scale at home. Fit track also has a wearable smartwatch called the threa tracker. It's got everything you need and nothing you don't as a smartwatch. Of course you can receive call and message notifications. But the tree a tracker is an all day wearable that tracks your activity, heart rate, and seven different sport modes depending on the activity you're participating in. You can change music from the watch while you're on a run. You can even use it to take control of your camera and take that all important selfie. It even monitors your quality of sleep Now on top of all of these features, here's the best one. It has a seven plus day battery life. Now a week without charging will will really allow you to track your activity and sleep on interrupted. Now having the fifth track daris scale and a tree a smartwatch is like having a one two combo and helping you achieve your health goals. What makes the fintrac products different than the rest is the impressive quality of the products for such an affordable price point. fintrac believes in this scale and watch so much that they have a 30 day risk free trial period. So if you decide fintrac isn't for you, you can get a full refund. No questions asked. They even cover the scale and watch with an optional lifetime warranty. So that means no worries for you. Alright, so how can you get your hands on the fit track scale and smartwatch. I'll have a link you can use which I'll put for you guys in the show notes. Right now using the link you can save up to over 60% off the regular price in Use the code New Me 20 you can get an extra 20% off. You also get free shipping on your orders for a limited time. Make sure guys you take advantage of the sweet deal of over 60% off the dare scale and a trio tracker and free shipping. Just click on the link to the fit track site in the show notes. Okay guys, let's get to it. Without further ado, here is my interview with a super bubbly and super fun. Alyssa Anderson. Alright guys, welcome to The FIT UNITED Podcast. This is Kevin, I'm with my guest for today. Alyssa Addison, how you doing?
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I'm so good.
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happy you're here. I'm super excited. I want to tell everybody about how we met First of all, because I'm a coach at Orange theory, as many of you know, and Alyssa is a member at Orange theory. And she come to a couple of my class I was like, Who is this girl she's got all this energy like she comes in. It's like it could be a 15 Pm or it could be like noon on Saturday. And she's like, not bouncing off the wall but just super energetic and I love that. So even to the point where I was like, should ask her maybe she should be a coach because you know, people like coaches need this kind of energy. So anyway, that's how we met every year. Remember that and me asking you
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I do remember Yeah, when I specifically go to your classes, because I just like I like the vibe, man. Yeah, I appreciate
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that. Well, thank you. Part of it. Honestly, I love I love making the music a part of the experience too. I know that a good workout, you get a sweat stuff, but musics A big part. So and I know yesterday's playlists, you are pretty pumped. And I love that playlist. I'll try to bring it back.
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There was another one one time that was like top 40s but with like, like remixes and that class I burn over 700 calories. 700 and that was one I don't know if you remember but I had like 56 plot points or whatever. You were like were you like in the orange coming in? Like
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a couple of five minute or five hour energies before I got in here.
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Yeah, but I think that was after you came back from a holiday. You're in Paris. Yeah. So So you were you're taking a couple weeks off? I think it did. Yeah. So coming back always is that it's been rough.
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It was rough. She was a rough time. Yeah. You know what, though, when I started, this is just gonna be a orangetheory. Now, Yeah, totally.
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When I started, I could only like, power walk, especially because like, I have problems with my back and like my knees and stuff. And now I'm like, as you know, like fucking running the whole thing.
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Yeah, yeah, you got that, you know, you're actually running now. So just explain for some of the lay people who don't understand what what power walking is power walking is method of regression, I guess on the treadmill. In case you're not able to run for an injury or whatever, if you just starting out and gets too intense to run, you can power walk and that's when you increase or decrease the incline. Right. And so you were limited to that for how long?
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Oh, a long time because I think I started at Orange theory in May.
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Okay. Okay. So ever since then, January. Okay. Okay. Yeah, so you've been power walking up until pretty much now since May. Yeah. Wow. Wow. Well, I'm glad that it's better now.
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Yeah, I know. I think because like, my muscles are surrounding those injured areas are getting stronger than stability. Yeah.
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I told you you shouldn't totally do this now you understand? But um, no, no, but yeah, that's totally true. Like, you build that strength up. And now you can progress literally into jogging and running. And now you're still getting all those plot points and plot points is that see we are we're good. But then people are like, what the hell is that spot point is essentially, if you spend a minute at a heart rate zone that's 82% or greater of your maximum, you're going to get a spot point for that minute. So essentially, you were there for a whole hour and you got 50 to
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56 I'm not even my heart rate was still going when we were stretching. And I got that one more because we were almost at like a certain thousand amount or hundred amount. And then you were like, jumping?
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Yeah. We gotta get this like 800 or whatever it was. And that's, that's pretty good for a class. As you can tell guys, Alyssa energy is very infectious. And this is why I want to bring her on because she's got a lot of things. going on. One of the things that she's got going on is her podcast with her friend Samantha. Right. It's called the approachable podcast and how long have you guys had it going on for now?
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Gosh, I think that started in May two.
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Was it okay? Yeah, it was a big month for you. It was
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a big month. Yeah. Well this year and I mean, like, I guess this year is just brand new, but like last year, that was huge. A bunch of changes. Yeah, and we started Yeah, in May, but we started thinking about the podcast like last October
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Okay, so it was a few months in the works and then all sudden you're like, yeah, we gotta just gotta go for it. Yeah. So why did you guys decide to start approachable and first of all, tell me about why you want to start it and why the name I thought was really cool.
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Listen, trying to fuckin pick that name.
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is so hard. We started Samantha Sam is she's a beauty influencer on YouTube and Instagram and so she was kind of feeling sorry I feel like I'm like in
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a bit there you
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Sam is a beauty influencer on instant And YouTube. And so she was kind of feeling like, how do I even say this? Not that her work didn't matter, but she wanted to talk about something bigger than makeup. I gotcha. Yeah. And she came to me and she was like, do you want to do a podcast and I had been listening to podcast as well. And I was like, hell yeah, maybe I want to do. And we started talking about like, what we would want to put out into the world. And we literally sat back and forth getting our nails done, like going to the swimming pool, like trying to figure out we're like, brainstorming what this name would be. And finally, we were just I don't even know who said it first. But we were just sitting in her beauty room. And one of us said, I just want to make these topics approachable. And we met It was literally
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like the movie that can light ball we both looked at each other. And immediately Google that actually was taken. Yeah, and obviously not.
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No, it wasn't and we were like an approachable podcast was born right and that is what we want to do. We wanted to take these topics because Sam and I speak extremely openly to each
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other with each other.
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Yeah, and to our friends. Like I feel like both of us are open books in regards to like our past. Our with mental health, like literally anything, right? And we were like, but why can't other people talk like this? They can and so we kind of wanted, if I can be so bold to say that we're doing it, we wanted to make topics like that more approachable to like everyone. And from the feedback that we've received, I feel like we are right, right. That's dope.
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It is dope because and that's why when I was listening to a few episodes are like, they're actually talking about this. This is crazy. Obviously, there are a lot of people with certain insecurities or inhibitions about talking about these topics, but you're not talking about other people experiencing these things. You're talking about yourself, which I think is even more difficult. You know what I mean? So you guys came up with the name where why why the podcast medium?
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gonna be in YouTube. I mean, because I know you guys post a video on YouTube too. Right? But yeah,
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for me, it wasn't as big of a thing. What Sam experiences in in the social media world sorry. is a lot of the time things going get taken out of context because you don't have enough time to explain yourself because people aren't generally speaking going to watch like an hour long YouTube video, but people do sit down and listen to podcasts for that long because you can
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do different things while you're listening.
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Yeah, yeah, sure. And it kind of gave us the opportunity to do it on edited, you know, we do edit our podcast, but more so like in a conversational way. Whereas YouTube videos, you kind of want to make it like, okay, like, let's use the comedic threes and like, let's do this. And there's
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position tricks and all this stuff. Yeah, there's like more
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structure to it. And with podcasting, and honestly, on the podcast platform, I feel like the users of like, podcasts are so much different. I don't know why, like the audience is there. There's so much more accepting, not to say that like people on YouTube aren't accepting.
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Like, just like shading.
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But but the feedback is just so different, right? I don't it's I don't know what it is. It's just a different vibe over there in the podcast world, man.
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Totally. And you know what, honestly, I might Be a good social experiment, then maybe someone's already done it. But the audience is different. I found already and just, you know, the audience that I've, you know, built up in the short time that I've been doing this. But I think there's something to say about conversation. And there's a reason why radio has been around for so long, because they listen to conversation. They don't necessarily need to see a face to face, but they can connect with you on a much deeper level. And then if they see their face, now they can put a face to that name or that voice. And they've already built that relationship with you. I think that's really why it's caught on so much is a digital form of radio. That's the way I see it. Anyway.
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That's how I get to and actually, that it's so interesting, being in the YouTube world and being in the podcast world, because that's how the ads work, too. No, totally. Yeah. So like, YouTube is completely different in the way that that the budgets and the companies work. And in the podcast world, it's still very traditional, like traditional mediums. Right, right. And it's like a really good comparison. Yeah,
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actually, that's really interesting. I know. I'm not sure what's happening with this now. But I think Spotify is starting to change things in terms of their ad strategies. 20 and so we could talk about more podcast specific stuff later on. Seriously. Shall we can nerd out about Yeah, seriously. But they're going to start potentially monetizing through ads that they're going to strategically place throughout the podcast. And it's going to be it's not going to be necessarily your sponsor and my sponsor, but it's going to be who they feel is appropriate. So anyway, we'll talk about that later. I think that's something that's really interesting. Okay, so going back to approachable and why started in the topics you guys have talked about? First of all, you guys were friends for a long time before this. So how long you guys been friends?
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Oh, my eyes are watering already. Oh my god. Like when I talk about if you watched any of my podcasts, you know, I'm so emotional. Especially when it comes to Sam. We've been friends for 10 years now. Wow. I we like just hit our 10 year anniversary.
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We met in grade 10. Yeah. So we were in a linear class, which is like you have it all year but every second day in drama, like acting and social studies.
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Okay, so two classes they were lightness. Oh, yeah.
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Yeah, cuz they were like one day one day off. And we met in the social studies class. Our teacher made us do an ice breaker with the person who was sitting like behind us or something like that and Sam and I just like faithfully wipe a tear away, got paired up together, and it was just like this this beautiful little nest of a relationship was born. Wow.
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Yeah. Now Was this something that was so similar about you guys or perhaps with different like what was it that kind of I mean this is the chemistry of friendship chemistry what was it something that kind of drew you guys as friends together and it
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was just love it.
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I love that you don't simple simple and it could be just as simple as that. No,
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I don't know. Honestly like her for I can't speak to like what she felt was Yeah, probably fireworks. But
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I met her I was really drawn to her wit. She's super charming. She's super funny. Yeah, just and she's beautiful. And I was like damn, she got style and I was still like I'm right now I'm wearing like a baggy like sweatshirt. I was still wearing the ship. I
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didn't give a fuck. But that's that's cool too. So that's awesome that you guys were able to obviously drawn to each other and you guys became friends and have remained friends because I think for me, I've gone through different stages and from And chips as I grew through my stages in life, and I've got a different friendship group now than I've had maybe even four or five years ago. So that speaks a lot to your guys's ability to grow together as people but remain friends. Right?
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Well, and we did have a period where we weren't as close to friends because she was in Vancouver, doing her thing with social media and makeup and stuff and I was moving all around Canada. I was living a very different lifestyle and then we kind of like connected back together and I ended up moving into her house and now
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so from living like cities apart to now living together to right, that's me. Yeah.
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Living and Working together. It shouldn't work, but it does.
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So that leads me to the next question, actually, because I'm I know I shared this with you, but are there any things like pet peeves that you guys have that you kind of see the tolerated or acceptable one look like? Okay, I'm just gonna let that slide.
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No, well, no, no, no, it's so funny because like when I was thinking about it, I was looking at her because I read these questions with her. Yeah. And I was like, gosh, I come back to this all the time, and I feel like broken record. Yeah, but if you love someone, you do things because it's important to them. So like even if something isn't important to me and it's important to like Sam or my partner or something, then I'll if it doesn't like, directly conflict with my morals right, then I'll just do it. And also, if I love somebody, they don't really piss me off, man. I don't know what it is like, yeah, things that annoy me in general are like people chewing loudly like the normal show.
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But that could be anybody. Yeah, exactly.
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But honestly, like with with real things, if I said something in a way that upset Sam, she would just tell me right and then I would change my verbiage because people receive information differently. And you kind of have to be like cognizant of that and and mindful of that, and it works vice versa. And because you have so much love for somebody, you don't want them to feel bad. Yeah. You want them to like you know, feel any type of way. So then you Yeah, you change your behavior. So really, no, I don't think
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No, I think that's awesome that you can you can honestly feel that way. I think There have been certain friends that I've had that, yeah, there may be somebody that ticked me off about them maybe a bad habit or something, and it actually felt like something that I was going to resent them for. Right. And obviously, that says a lot about maybe you know, my relationship with that person and why we're no longer friends. But it was never something that you would end up you know, you don't think you'd ever feel resentful about that person? I don't know. Always leaving their socks and, you know, in your face or whatever you whatever the bad habit is, right? Yeah. No, that's awesome.
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Yeah. I want to say like, we've gone through a couple, the only things that I feel like she gets frustrated with me about is when I'm not like giving myself enough credit. And then she like has a long conversation with me about it. And I feel like vice versa, like if she's feeling down or whatever, I'm just like, I wish that you could like go into my mind and see how like powerful you are.
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Yeah, you know, that's Well, now, you probably can't speak to this unless she tells you but
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is there something that she feels like that gives you obviously speaks so highly about her and what does she tell you about her leadership with you and how highly she Oh
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Um, what the biggest thing that she brings up a lot is my positivity.
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And I see that I've known you for like, what a month.
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What am I right?
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Yeah, maybe like two months? Yeah. Yeah. And it's funny because it's something that I never noticed before. Like people would always say I was bubbly and stuff like that. But yeah, she just says that, like I I like, not introduced well, but like when I meet new people and stuff like that. I'm like, a positive person and stuff. And honestly, I feel really lucky because I don't have to try hard for it. And I think that maybe people think I do try really hard to be positive, but I'm just really frickin lucky. That's awesome. That it's kind of like a natural thing for me. I mean, I'm not like, I have my bad days. Yeah, but generally speaking, like she just does not bother me
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glasses usually half full and half empty.
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Yeah, for sure. That's awesome. Yeah,
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that says a lot. Yeah, that's, that's really cool. And being able to approach life that way. I think it's a it's a different set of lenses than it is the other way around. And it can't really changes things so Oh yeah,
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I was just gonna say like, I do feel I don't really believe in like what, like the secret or anything like that, but I like my air quotes. Yeah, but I do feel like when I like if I'm having a bad day or bad things happen and it's not I it's not I don't think that more bad things happen. It's just that I'm like more aware of it. Yeah. Whereas if I'm in a positive state, there's still shit that could be going wrong but it's like if if I'm not focusing on that, like, I'm gonna leave that here, right I'm gonna leave that bad interaction over here and go on with my Yeah, yeah, totally. I really believe that. Like, if you want to lead a positive life, you can lead a positive life. Yeah, totally. Like,
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yeah, and I think I even talked about this with my last guest. The law of attraction, right? I think you really attract what you put out there. Yeah. And it goes to literally anything you talk about whether it's, you know, your career aspirations, or the people you want around your life, the relationships that you want to have, when you're putting out this energy, it's going to come back to you for sure, for sure, and sometimes more so than even you're putting out there. So So again, talking about this different topics in life that have been difficult. That's why you created approachable. How long have you been doing this now? How long is that show been on you guys?
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So we're almost like us like 10 nine months. Yeah long enough to grow baby but we didn't.
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This is your baby. Right and that's your
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So what kind of long term visions do you have with it? So I understand you know where you're going with a conversation so you want to have what kind of long term visions you have with Simon you with this show with the show.
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I would love and this is the thing it's like we never had like a subscriber base or a viewcount that we wanted to hit. We really did genuinely just want to have these conversations. It's obviously more fun that there's more people listening course of course
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then you get the feedback.
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And it feels more like a community but the thing with having more notoriety is you become more like like a shiny object to bigger guests. Yeah, yeah, totally. I would love it if we could have on guests that we know are experts. in their field and stuff like that, because we do want to have guests on our podcast and in season one have a few. But it's really hard to find people who are willing to talk that publicly about what they do, because there can be scrutiny on the internet and like people coming at you that that have a different opinion or whatever. And that's hard when you're in a professional workplace. Yeah, for sure. Um, and be who are gonna say one or two anyway. Long on that is that it's hard in general to find experts. Yeah, for sure. If you don't know somebody personally, then you have to do okay, well, What school did they go to, like? What accolades do they have? Are they do they interview well, right? Because especially in in like lesser public, I guess professions, you know, some people aren't as open or maybe they have anxiety or something like that. And they actually can't come on the podcast. So it is it is difficult to find guests. So I think that our goal would be just to continue to grow so that we can put out even like, better and more interesting, cool content. Yes, we have access to these like, right. Yeah, the experts.
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Absolutely. And I think and I think you hit the nail on the head, I think you and I could talk about something that we're experiencing and kind of go off, you know, the experiences that we've had. But when you have somebody who's actually studying in our field and can speak, you know, more eloquently or more in education aspect. Absolutely, I totally agree. And I think that's where I'm gearing towards having people that can just, you know, talk you know, more intelligently about the topics that I want to talk about and I think will bring value to everyone else. So and I think you guys have grown your, I guess listener and follower base quite a bit now in those nine months. Did it help having your networks already whether it was Instagram or what other no social media networks or YouTube that it helped when you guys started approachable?
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Oh, my God. Yeah.
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I mean, Sam, when when we started had 2.1 million followers on Instagram,
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oh my god,
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and almost a million subscribers on YouTube. So I've never been shy about saying that that was our best? Yeah.
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Yeah. And of course, and people did move over because they support Sam. And then eventually they started supporting me on the podcast as well. But yeah, obviously, right. I mean, if you already have people's attention, and they already trust and respect to you, they're gonna want to see what you do next. Right,
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hopefully. Yeah, no, absolutely. Absolutely. And I think that's really cool that you guys were able to translate. She was able to even translate well in what was it like in makeup and beauty? That and then into a listener? base on complete topics completely unrelated to beauty.
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Absolutely. Right. Yes. It is crazy. Because I yeah, because beauty is such a different space. Yeah. And so for the kinds of people who want to learn about beauty and stuff like that to want to come and listen to literally anything else that we have. When like, Oh, well, who are we? Right? You know, people who do like makeup on the internet. Yeah, that's like really, really, where's the credibility
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in that one or something, right? Yeah.
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Could be how some people could perceive it. For sure. So It is really cool. And we're super grateful. Like I wake up every I know this is so cheesy, but I wake up, I could cry. I wake up every day just like, Okay.
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This is a safe space, you're allowed.
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Okay. And I think that's awesome that you have that kind of passion and the energy around it. Right? When I started this thing, I'm not an expert at every field. I did my personal training, I'm still doing that. But I honestly I've barely even talked about that. Because I think the conversation is more not about what I can do. But it's what is more valuable to other people who are listening. And I think you guys are having those conversations. And that's why people are listening, right? Because, honestly, there's a lot of topics that we're going to talk about today that if you ask me the same question, I have to really think about whether I can answer that right now. I'm saying yeah, so first of all, I want to acknowledge you for being on the show, and being open to talk about some of these topics, because I know they're not easy for anybody. Yeah, right. So I
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think that being there's such a need for vulnerability and authenticity, right on the internet, and A lot of people aren't in the position to be able to do that. And I'm really thankful that I can be. And by that, I mean like, my job isn't going to suffer because
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this is it.
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But I know that it's really hard because I was in in that sort of space for a long time. And I couldn't, I didn't feel like I could write, and now I can. And so yeah, I'm more than willing to be that person. And I've been met with a lot of positivity because of it. Yeah. Which is really great. Because if I was met with a lot of negativity, man, that would suck.
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Yeah, no, for sure. And it would probably, you know, minimize your ability to do that as well. Absolutely. I think people probably appreciate and look up to the fact that you can. So we're going to get into that a little bit more later on the tough stuff, I guess, as we call it. But I want to learn a little bit more about you and your journey to how you got to sitting in front of me today. Right. So before and I listened to some of your podcasts, your episodes, I understand that you had lived in other cities. So how was that experience? I know you live in Toronto for a little while.
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I did. Yeah. So I started moving around with a company that I used to work for cactus club cafe.
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Oh, that was that place? Yeah, we only my favorite my wife's a nice favorites. Really? Yeah. I'm telling my favorite order if you want Yes, please do. Okay, Creole Chicken.
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Chicken I'm not joking. Rice and broccoli. No,
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I'm good with just the way it is mashing the asparagus. And I always get an old fashioned with it. Oh, do you always and it doesn't have to be on happy hour.
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Okay, so he's not, he's not trying to get the discounts and
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then if I'm super hungry, I'll do the calimary as a starter. Okay. All right. So what's your favorite or so since you were you work there.
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It's changed so many times. But honestly, I don't know if I should like say this to people. But we like we're we're allowed to order different things
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off the menu. Sometimes Sometimes.
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If the chefs are feeling like they they're feeling kind of
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but I would say the modern bowl. Yeah, like it's filling enough like this is if I'm working on shift, right. It's filling enough that I'm not hungry by the end of my clothes, but it's not heavy like if you eat a meatballs bag and then try to go back to work. You're like bogged down in
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a rough night maybe especially once you hit like 25 I was when I was like 1992 I
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try to sleep now you gotta serve the rest of those days.
Unknown Speaker 28:15
Yeah, I'm drinking enough stress.
Unknown Speaker 28:17
That is hilarious. Okay, so you worked at Castle For how long?
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years. Wow. Okay, now you started here or did you start the lobby? I know it started in North Vancouver. That was kind of
Unknown Speaker 28:26
Yeah. A lot of cactus knowledge. Told, you know, so I started Yeah, and I'll bring it I guess I'll bring it back around how it was. Yeah. So I started in Edmonton actually in West Edmonton. I moved right after high school to Edmonton and just walked in. I had actually applied at Boston Pizza because that was the restaurant I worked at previous okay. They didn't hire me. Sure. But like thank God and no shade to Boston Pizza. Yeah, obviously. Like my longest standing relationship is cactus. Right. Um, and I walked into cactus they hired me and I really fell in love. They had a Like a list of core values, they were really passionate about their training process. I mean, it can feel tedious at the time, for sure. But I really lived my life by those core values like inside and outside of work. It's huge, like continuous improvement and like, just all of them, like all the core values are so amazing. And yeah, so I worked there, I ended up having to leave West Edmonton really abruptly because I was in a really bad relationship. A bit. Yeah. I skipped town, and I ended up getting hired in the Kalona there was only one location at that time close to now. And I ended up getting hired because my, what was he at the time, he would have been a regional manager. He I was impact is having dinner and he was sitting at the table behind me, okay. And he was like, you don't work here. And I was like, Oh, no, and he was like, let's change that. And he was from Edmonton. Kelowna. So anyway, I got an interview with that cactus. And then I started working there. I worked there for I think three years. Okay. Before they had an opening, they were opening up Saskatoon. Okay. There's a location in Saskatoon and you can apply to be an opener. Okay, open new stores. And so I applied for that. Yeah. And I actually got accepted, which is funny because looking back at the time, I wasn't, I was not the greatest employee, like, I wasn't really passionate, but like, I mean, I wasn't the greatest bartender, I got a lot of training and
Unknown Speaker 30:24
I was gonna say, what, how bad can you be a bar? If you can't make a drink? Then you're a bad bartender. That's literally the one that
Unknown Speaker 30:28
well, but there's so much more to it because you like, Don't minimize my profession. Because like you You have to be like, dealing with so much have to be dealing with
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guest personalities. I know. Yeah. And
Unknown Speaker 30:40
like, then you're making the drinks and then it's like muscle memory and all this stuff. So it is like a lot.
Unknown Speaker 30:45
I'm totally fine. I couldn't I probably couldn't do it myself. Because there's like 900 things going on at the same time. It's
Unknown Speaker 30:52
hard and I feel like I just wasn't really there but they took a chance on me man and I think it paid off for both of us. Um, and I did I got accepted and I Went to Saskatoon and cool and that was really cool. I always talk about like, how Saskatoon changed my life. Because if you're in a certain place in your life and I truly believe this, and you want things to change, it's so hard to change if you don't change your surroundings, right your environment could call and changing my environment and anybody that I was surrounding myself with other than the cactus people because those were still like healthy people. It just like really changed my mindset and I became very like focused on what I wanted to do at cactus I was I was really into like, progressing myself there, right? I was making great money. I was living in an apartment by myself that like when you do opens for a certain amount of time, they will take care of like your accommodation, right? Like pretty well known until
Unknown Speaker 31:42
you get on your feet a little bit without location, even because
Unknown Speaker 31:44
sometimes you're only there for three months, okay? And they can't really expect you to be paying for like your I guess they could but they don't. But they Yeah, they'll like take care of your combination here so that you because you'll still be paying rent at home of
Unknown Speaker 31:58
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And So I just felt like is this my life like this is crazy. This is so cool and I met so many nice people and and Saskatoon can be very wholesome. Yeah, we went, like ice skating in the winter and we played like, capture the flag down by the river and stuff like that getting
Unknown Speaker 32:14
in the winter like August.
Unknown Speaker 32:16
Yeah. Man, I love the cold. I people think I'm freaking crazy. I loved walking home from work and like, My lips are so cold, they could barely move and my hands were like, crunching up and I was like, I look so cute. And
Unknown Speaker 32:29
I'm gonna ask you that question, but maybe I'll get that answer now. What season is your favorite? Oh, it is false. It is false. Okay, kind of like the cold
Unknown Speaker 32:36
Yeah, I like summer because I like the beach but it actually hurts my head. Like the sun all the time. Yeah, I get really bad migraines and, like a little tricky for me. I
Unknown Speaker 32:44
got a lot of sun in a day. Like I'm on the beach all day. Like I'll probably cut my eyes feel like they gonna pop out of me. Yeah.
Unknown Speaker 32:48
Okay. Man. It's a thing. Yeah, totally. Um, anyway, like quick in this answer up. I'm going to keep you here for three hours. I went from Saskatoon and I decided that instead of moving back to Kelowna to continue on the trajectory, I moved to Vancouver to work at coal harbour to train high volume is what they call it. Because the reason that I wanted to open Saskatoon was because I knew they were opening Toronto. I said I wanted to get to Toronto so that I could act.
Unknown Speaker 33:15
Okay. Okay, at
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the time, this is what I thought like acting was you needed to be in Toronto, which like, obviously Vancouver's huge Right, right, hollywood
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Yeah. But at the time, it was like Toronto was still the shit. And I knew I wouldn't be able to go to Toronto. If I didn't do an open. I just felt like I wasn't there yet. So I did Saskatoon and then I was like, I really want to do Toronto and they were like, let's train you high volume. Let's get you in Cole harbour. So I had an interview at Pearl Harbor. It went great. I got the job. And I worked there for nine months and I ended up being a trainer there as well. I was a trainer in Saskatoon as well. I train new bartenders, and then I started training people at cool harbor and then I actually I forgot about this I got offered a job a bar manager at a different location and then I got offered assistant bar manager harbor I like I totally forgotten Looking back at my shit, and I was like, Oh, yeah. And then I ended up instead going to Toronto, it was kind of like a choice situation. Okay, go to Toronto where you can stay in. Okay, this. And so I ended up going to Toronto and opening the first Canadian place location there, which is the first three level with an elevator. Okay.
Unknown Speaker 34:21
Okay, so wait, hold on. So thinking about high volume, what does that mean?
Unknown Speaker 34:23
Oh, sorry. Yeah, yeah. So there's stores that do less volume. So like less covers, okay, like less people right?
Unknown Speaker 34:31
There. There's less people. So high volume means more people.
Unknown Speaker 34:36
faster pace. Yeah. It's like the big leagues type of thing. And that's not to say that other locations aren't like as important. It's just a different type,
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different demographic, different area, whatever. Yeah. So
Unknown Speaker 34:46
cool. harbor is a very busy restaurant.
Unknown Speaker 34:48
Would you say Berard street is also a mental mental? Yeah. Yeah, I would say it's not a two level one. I know they have them. Okay.
Unknown Speaker 34:56
Yeah, they're like crazy low because they do a lot of their service in the day. Okay, it's lunchtime. Yeah. harbour is like busy like all the time.
Unknown Speaker 35:04
Okay, all the time. all day every day.
Unknown Speaker 35:06
It was one of my favorite locations. It's hard to say now but but I really loved the team there. Yeah, they were all so like on point they were just dialed in that team.
Unknown Speaker 35:15
Yeah. That's cool. So that transition then from Vancouver you decide, okay, no, I do want to get to Toronto and I'm going to go to Toronto. And so that's where you went.
Unknown Speaker 35:22
And that's where I went. And I trained there as well. I was one of the four four trainers, which was pretty cool. Being one of four coming from like, who I was at Saskatoon, like I just can't believe like the growth but that's the thing with cactus and this is now just gonna be about cactus. They really put the time into you like you know, if you work for them, they will work for you.
Unknown Speaker 35:41
Right they invest in you and you invest back Yeah, please mutual relief and
Unknown Speaker 35:45
they can feel it and I always told people that I was trading I'm like, if you think that they're not watching, you're wrong. Yeah, they are always watching even if they're not saying something and not in like a bad way but it's like, they have like eyes and they can feel you out if you're like, like, interested in like, first Your career and stuff like that. And and I haven't really seen somebody who wasn't interested not get something right, you know,
Unknown Speaker 36:08
right. They reward people who are invested and engaged with it with her.
Unknown Speaker 36:11
Absolutely. Oh, yeah. And yeah, so I was a trainer in Toronto and I was there for almost a year and I moved there actually, like, I got my own place and everything. Okay. And then my dad ended up getting really sick and I had to come home.
Unknown Speaker 36:24
Okay, and home is here. okolona Yeah, okay.
Unknown Speaker 36:29
Okay, I've only been to Cologne a couple times, but it's beautiful.
Unknown Speaker 36:32
Yeah, it sucks to grow up there, but it's nice to visit.
Unknown Speaker 36:36
Okay, so you move back to Kelowna. Obviously you said your dad was ill. Yeah. And then where did that transition to you coming back here to the city.
Unknown Speaker 36:44
So after colonna I dealt with like my dad's estate and everything like that, and then they were opening a different type of concept. The cactus club owns tap house in park, Royal Oak. You know, top Oh, yeah, of course. And so they opened something kind of similar. It's called King taps in Toronto. And they asked me, or I asked them can't remember to open that location with them. And so it's okay. It's more of a beer concept location. So instead of like, like French sort of cuisine, like casual fine dining, it was more of like craft beer and liquor, that kind of thing. And so I packed my bags, and I moved to Toronto again, wow.
Unknown Speaker 37:26
If you Okay, I'm gonna say something about that. And I had this conversation again with another guest, but your ability to be so mobile, there was something about that, that scared me, especially at that age. I was young, and I'm going to tell the story real quick. But I was in I hadn't a choice of any school really, I wanted to go and play football at when I was coming out of high school, and at the time, 1718 and I didn't have the maturity to say, you know what, I'm going to pack up my life and just go somewhere and experience it. I didn't really have any other mentors. Besides my mom. She'd moved all the way from the Philippines to come here and start a life but besides her to like pack up her the love their lives, and just Move on. So for you to be able to do that multiple times, yeah says a lot like, what did that teach you?
Unknown Speaker 38:08
Oh, it taught me that the world is so big. Yeah. And that like, if you feel like you're again, I could cry. If you feel like you're stuck. Yeah. It's it's so small, like what you're dealing with is so so little of the world, and you can pick up and move yourself. Like when I started flying around like that. Yeah, I couldn't believe it. I was like, this plane can take me anywhere. I was like, This is fucking wild dude. I grew up in Colonia, it's a small city. And once I started like going to Toronto and stuff, it's like, I'm walking down the streets where I don't know where they lead, right? And I'm finding new cafes and new restaurants and I'm like, I'm over here. I'm taking the subway. I've never taken a subway bar. It was so amazing. And like if you if I had an opportunity in like LA or New York or literally anywhere, and you told me that I could take that opportunity to pack my bags right now.
Unknown Speaker 38:53
Do you want to come
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with me? So that's actually another thing. I want to ask you about that because you Your ability to make that decision not necessarily on a whim, but because you're so open to change. How does that how has it impacted relationships that you've had? Because I would imagine for me anyway, at the time, I was like, I don't wanna leave my girlfriend. I'm sorry, I'm just gonna stay here. Like, how did that impact or how how would it impact it for you?
Unknown Speaker 39:17
It gets easier is what I'll say. Like the more that you do it, the more you realize like the the real friendships, they'll stick it out no matter what, it doesn't matter and you'll make it work. Yeah, um, but relationship wise like I I just, I never was worried about it. I was like, you can either come with me or you can stay right but I'm never and I still feel this way. I'm never going to change the way that I want my life to look for another person. And that can be detrimental because I'm, I'm not really willing to be like making concessions and stuff like that or like compromises in that aspect. I can compromise a lot of shit, but not what I want my life to look like. And so the the only serious boyfriend that I had When I moved was when I moved from Kelowna to King taps to Toronto. Okay, and he did an upcoming with me.
Unknown Speaker 40:07
Oh, no way. So he went from Kelowna with you
Unknown Speaker 40:09
live there together for Yeah, the whole time and a half. Yeah. And then he moved back to Vancouver with me as well. Okay. And that's the thing, it's like you, I think that if I think that if I didn't have a lot going on which like would suck, but if I didn't have a lot going on and my partner had a great opportunity, I would do the same because again, I have to like weigh the pros and cons. Okay, what's going to make me happier staying in this city, right don't really have a whole lot going on with some friends or moving with like, potentially the love of my life watching him grow and him succeed. And, and if I don't have a lot going on here, imagine what I can create for myself right here, right? And it's just like, I'm not scared of that. Like, I know that I'm a capable person. I know that I have great work ethic. So I know that I'm worthwhile. Right. So why can't I thrive in any invite?
Unknown Speaker 40:57
Yeah, absolutely. So would you say that because of your Look in your ability to do that. Would you say that FOMO is not a thing for you?
Unknown Speaker 41:08
You're missing I, you know what, I have a fear of you
Unknown Speaker 41:10
do it. That's what I'm doing. That's what I'm getting it. So you go and do it right.
Unknown Speaker 41:14
Yeah. I was just gonna say I'm like, you know what, I don't miss out though. Like, I feel like, Yeah, well, that's and that's the thing, like I came from such like a lifestyle and Kalona where it was like to the next party to the next party, and I would be laying in bed being like, dude, you need to just like fucking sleep tonight. But I did have FOMO I say, but it's like, looking back at that now. I'm like, dude, I've I can guarantee you I've been to every party. Yeah, there is not one type of party I have. And I don't care. Yeah. And people who are like, oh, like, we're going to Vegas. I'm like, cool. I'll probably go again. One day. Yeah.
Unknown Speaker 41:41
So you feel like you've experienced it all. Now. It's kind of behind you now. Right?
Unknown Speaker 41:45
Yeah. And not not that. Like, I don't want to experience some things again, but it's just like, I know that if I want something, I will make it happen. Yeah. And Sam told me something a couple years ago, when I was kind of feeling like shitty about my life. kept saying like, I want this, I want this. And she just kept saying this time next year. Yeah. She's like, think about how much you can do in a year. Yeah. And that's what I say to people now. And that's what I say to myself all the time. I'm like, Oh, I want this and I'm like this time next year and man, it's true. It is this time next year. There you go.
Unknown Speaker 42:15
Well, that does speak a lot to your ability to be to just commit when you commit to something. What yo