#11 - MONDAY DRIVE - Loneliness & Rejection in the Pursuit of Your Passions - An Interview with JC
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For this week's Monday drive, I've got a special guest with me, my cousin JC, who's been visiting us from New York for the past few days. He shares with us the things that pushed him into pursuing his passions, and how loneliness has played a factor in his life. He also talks about how being able to be okay with being by yourself can actually be incredibly powerful in your own personal growth.
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Alright guys, welcome to this week's Monday drive. I've got my cousin jc cafo on here with me today. I think our short little conversation is incredibly powerful from discovering his true passion and becoming a professional videographer to battling loneliness as a result of pursuing his passion. We talked about the dynamics of friendships, and how they change as you grow as individual. And that maybe that you've grown out of those friendships. We also talk about rejection, how powerful rejection can be as a motivator, if you allow it to be that for you can break some people and I really love how JC used it as a turning point in his life, to really double down on himself and his talents. I'm so glad I had the chance to interview him and share his story, one that I think we can all relate to on some level. I want to say thank you to our sponsor for this episode, tr x suspension Training Systems teawrex also known as total resistance, exercises is a brand of exercise tools that you will find in virtually every gym, or fitness facility. The most common of these teawrex tools is known as the teawrex suspension system. Now there are these yellow and black straps that are either hooked onto the wall, a squat rack, or an S frame, which has a specific anchoring system for the teawrex. These traps use body weight as the resistance, which means you can progress or regress the difficulty as much as you want, all by just using your body weight in relation to the straps and the floor. Now there are literally hundreds of exercises you can do using these suspension straps. And you can get a full body workout in 15 to 20 minutes. They even have an app that you can use to have guided workouts right on your phone. Now as a personal trainer, I obtained my certification in the TR x suspension system a few years ago, and ever since then, it's been my favorite tool to use with all my clients, both beginner and advanced. Now, I think particularly love another tool of theirs. It's called the rip trainer. Now, ask any of my clients and they'll tell you, they absolutely hate the thing, but they know just how good it really is for getting that full body workout. The rip trainer is essentially a metal rod attached to a band on one end, that you can change the tension of the bands for added resistance. And with this one sided tension, you're able to do unilateral exercises that really help you identify your body's imbalances, so you can improve on them. Now, the teawrex suspension training is a staple in my workouts. And it's even an essential part of many global group training brands like orange theory. The best part of these tools is that they're super portable, and you hook them up to anything, wherever you are. Hey, you're on vacation, you're at the beach, hook it up to a palm tree. You're at a park, attach it to a fence, top of a soccer net, even the basketball hoop at home you can hook it up over Your door and get that full body workout in the comfort of your own home. Now I could talk about the benefits of these tools forever. But if you want one of these tools for yourself until January 14, you can get $30 off all trainers on the teawrex website and free shipping on orders over 99 bucks. Now there's no code required, you just have to use the link that I'll put for you guys in the show notes. Now full disclosure, I am an affiliate of tr x. So what that means is if you buy something from tr x using the link, I do get compensated a little bit for it. Now the good thing is it doesn't cost you any more for doing this. And at the same time you're supporting The FIT UNITED Podcast so remember guys 30 bucks off any trainer and free shipping over 99 bucks using the link in the show notes. Now you only have till January 14 to get your own trainer so I very highly recommend that you guys jump on this deal. Okay, guys, super Today's Monday drive episode hopefully you find some takeaways from my conversation with my cousin JC. So without further ado, here is my interview with the one and only JC Caprio. Alright guys, Kevin here FIT UNITED Podcast. I'm here with my cousin JC How's it going? Man? Good, good. So GC is visiting us from New York. He is has been for Hello.
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I've been here for eight days now in Vancouver.
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It isn't Vancouver and I only got to hang out with you a couple of days today. One of them so it's all good, man. You're busy.
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Yeah. So many family here. That's good. Yeah,
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that's why we have lots of family here. So where did you guys go for sightseeing?
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Man. We went to Seattle. What else? That's pretty much it Seattle. Yeah.
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Yeah, but you never been to Seattle, right? I never been to Seattle. So
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I wanted to bring you on to this Monday Dr. Episode, because I wanted you to share a little bit about your trajectory or your journey to doing what you're doing now in the videography and the Yeah, the steps that you took to get there. So I thought that was really interesting. So, first question is, what did you do in school? Like, what did you study in school?
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So I graduated from high school in 2010. Right? And at that time, I was 18. I didn't know what I wanted to do. So I was getting into fields like criminal justice, getting into liberal arts, and I was just, I wasn't, I wasn't in trusted in it. You know, I was skipping class left and right, you know, friends, until years past 2012 you know, I just realized that wow, like, what am I doing my life you know, like, right? freaking great. My GPA was at 1.7 at a time. Yeah. probational academic probation. He was there too. And like getting that know on your in your mail, saying that You would have to go back to school. Yeah, you would have to overstay. Right, which was pretty embarrassing back then. Because you know, it's a two year school, right. And stay there for four years.
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I see what you mean. Yeah. So like, almost like it's taking you twice as long just to finish right.
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And I feel like staying that extra two years was did wonders for me, because I felt like if I hadn't stayed for those extra two years, I would have never met the people that I've met today. Oh, that's cool. So
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it's almost like the friendships that you made because you had stayed there that that long long I still friends that you have
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an opportunities wouldn't have been there. If I've probably transferred straight out of that two years.
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will take me back a little bit. So you want what's cool is that you went to
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UCLA to just a community school like a small schools in New York. Yeah.
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And the program that you were supposed to finish was what a two year program you said it was a two year or two year associate's program. I say,
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liberal arts. Yeah. And then you decided to finish and I decided to finish that. But I switched into graphic design.
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I see. Okay, so that's where the change I So, you did two years and you're like, Okay, well, I gotta finish though, but I'm going to switch into a different field altogether. Yeah, that's well, so what what made you decide to make that switch? So obviously, you were feeling kind of low because your GPA wasn't up to snuff, and you decided you needed to change. So what made you change into graphic design?
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Well, I asked myself what like, what am I not good at? And I know that I'm not good at math. I'm not good at studying. I don't really care about science. So you know, I mean, I like social studies. But yeah, yeah, yeah. But then I look back when I was a kid, when I was maybe in third grade. I made this painting of an apple, you know, pesto. And I remember my, my professor, my teacher, he would ask, he asked me, Hey, can I keep your painting? As a kid? I was like, Why you didn't ask that to the other students? Right? He asked me is like, Okay, so that was like my turning point. That was maybe like in a span of five seconds that memory popped up while I was like, All right, I'm gonna go with art.
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Isn't it amazing how the influence of our educators when we're young, what how old were you? Or what grade was this? Like when when this happens? Maybe a third grade, third grade. Okay, so in the third grade, how many other memories Do you have of things that happened in the third grade? Um, well, I remember
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Okay, so, so again, along the same lines, yeah. But it's all like you remember the, maybe the friends that you had or something you had? I don't know, like the, like the friend or the friends you had or the activities that you did. I guess the point I'm trying to make is the impact the educators that we have have in our lives, especially in that young age. Simple, something as simple as the teacher asking you. Hey, can I keep your painting you still remember it so vividly? Yeah. How wild is that though?
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That that's what I'm, that's the source of my confidence. I feel like because, you know, I feel like I can't fail at doing something that I you know, that's been given to me. Pretty much And naturally
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so you were saying that you doodle a lot and that's how you transitioned into or thought that you would take this into graphic design so how did it when you decided to switch from liberal arts to graphic design? Did you have this thought okay, hey, I remember my teacher taking my painting and whatever how what made you're like what were the steps to transition into into graphic design and essentially
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transitions I just took the classes you know, took the programs and then well that memory was just you know, a stepping stone for me it was just like a reminder that hey, you are a creator so just follow the creative path. And don't worry about it
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because where you all were you always kind of like creative that way even though you were doing things other things in school like did you always doodle Did you always do those kind of artistic things growing up?
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Yeah, no. Well, looking back at it now. Yeah, like not knowing that I was always that kid at lunch making beats on the table. All my You know, Friends wrapped in They were making versus Yeah, no two pens, two pens in each hand
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writing comedian beats with.
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Yeah. And then now my mom got me into piano. Right. Okay, it was pretty big neck looking back at it now I was like, wow, that probably helped me a lot too, right?
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That's interesting because I took piano lessons and I just kind of learned it. I learned on my own first, and I took some piano lessons to help maybe refine it or understand it more formally, but I never really got into it. But here you are saying that taking piano lessons was actually very impactful, even though I didn't think that it would be but for you, it has been right. Yeah. And it sparked what creativity is not what it was.
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spark creativity. It just, let's just guess comes naturally I guess.
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Yeah, that's very natural. So you finished graphic design, and you finish school. What did you do them after you finish? How long ago was that when you finished?
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Well, after my Associate's Degree in graphic design, I transferred so I transferred to a four year school but I finished in year because I had such a strong portfolio. You know, that's cool. Yeah, I took a year off and then I worked. And then that year off, how can we save up actually more money? So instead of transferring for two years, I want to transfer for one year and you just crushed it in one year. Yeah, Christian and when you I was able to travel abroad for two weeks. And that leads me to the next phase of my life. That travel abroad program actually got me my first job because I made a travel video. And, yeah, that two weeks like we were studying, UX UI design, you know, got like apps, designing apps. And I didn't really care about it. I just, I just wanted to travel you know, I have my own ulterior motives. I
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took the program but it was not really for the program was so you could travel
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Yeah, travel and make videos. Yeah. And then one of the one of the students, one of my counterparts in that program. She recommended me to my job that I'm working at now. Okay. As a Video Production specialist.
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Yeah. Okay, so now when you finish graphic design, obviously that can, you know, branch out into so many different professions. But how is it that you finished school and you eventually decided to go the video route? How did that happen?
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Well, I took an internship before, before go before transferring, and I was a intern as a graphic design. And pretty much, you know, it was fun, but then I felt like I could do more. You know, I felt like I could be out there instead of being in an office designing for other people. Right, you know, designing Facebook banners. And I was like, I could do more than this. Right? There's more to this than just yeah,
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it wasn't it wasn't sparking your creative passion, right? It wasn't doing it enough for you. It wasn't enough for you.
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It pretty much it was it was challenging in the first two weeks of the internship, it was four weeks, okay. or six weeks and then I was like, all right, this is getting old, boring.
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But at the Point you'd already almost as a hobby, right? You were already doing making videos on your own. No, not yet. Not yet. Okay, so how did that happen? And she had this job and you're like, Okay, well, maybe I'll just dabble in video like, What? What made you decide to go in video?
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That was 25th 2014 that internship? Okay, and video I got started in video around 2016 Okay, three years ago, okay, so there was a time where, at an internship, I worked at a print shop. And that was less creative than the internet. Even less care. Yeah, even less. And then, you know, it was just printing out other people's work, not even designing. So I was like, Oh my god, I gotta get into the digital realm. Right. I see. So this was before transferring. So I was thinking, I want to make apps. So okay, okay, so that was, you know, that was even way before video I wanted to I wanted to make apps applications. Okay.
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And then how did that go?
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So when I went to school, and I did that study abroad, I was like, all right. I hate making apps. I guess just designing I was like, this is it's not, you know,
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wasn't for you. It wasn't for me. But I think that's that's one really important note that or thing that you bring up is that you had tried. You got your graphic design school, you had done the print stuff, you're like, Okay, now thanks. And then you did the app thing. And you're like, No, thanks. So it was like, a bit of trial and error, you were able to discover what it is that you really want. And so was after making apps really, I'm just going to get my phone and like, start recording things on video and try to be creative with that. Is that how, like, what was your first moment or time when you remember like, hey, actually, you might want to do video stuff.
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Yeah. So it was actually for a class project that it was, you know, app related. And then I was taking photos at this singles retreat program from my church group that I was going to use as, as a part for my app, you know, so during that during that to during the weekend, Somebody approached me to, you know, do videos because they were performing. And then when I was shooting I was it was actually pretty fun because I was asking the people that all right, where are you going to be where you gonna stand? So it was the interaction with people who was there, you know, I was like, Wow, that's pretty fun. Yeah. And then the editing phase of that video, you know, that part. I was like, pretty much getting into it. Six hours in, I'm editing a non stop, right? Maybe I think I started around 889 10 1112. So maybe six hours? Well, to 2am I was like, all right, you know, someone go to sleep. So when I went to bed, I was still thinking about it like I got, so I opened my laptop again. Started World War. Yeah, so it was like,
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I think I finished about 6am so you were hooked like instantly. This is your first time ever trying to do this and you're like, this is freakin fun.
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And I was actually pretty nervous about editing that because I was like, I've never done you know, never edited For
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right now, what kind of gear Did you have at the time? Like this was again, just something that you had to do on the way like, what did you What did you use?
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I was using my dad's camera gear. It was a Nikon D 3100. Okay, so that was his hobby. Okay,
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so it was a DSLR. And it's obviously records video and things. Yeah. And then what kind of software to use only reason I'm asking you, I'll tell you in a second. But yeah,
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well, the software was already premiere Adobe Premiere, because I had the whole suite. You know, as a graphic designer, we use Photoshop, Illustrator.
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So you had this already because he had it from school.
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Yeah, we had the suite comes together.
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And the only reason why I asked was because you obviously had never done this before. And then someone asks you, Hey, can you record some stuff here? You borrow your dad's camera, use the software that you had, and all of a sudden you're like, holy crap, I could totally do this for like a job. Yeah.
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And I never thought about it as a job. Like, at first I just wanted to film people, you know, phone friends documented, you know, yeah, travel was my my ideal thing for video.
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I think still now I think we the conversations that we had before was that that's kind of the main driver behind why you're doing this is because it feels like you know, it'll be something that will open up an opportunity for you to travel right? Yeah. Yeah. What kind of like who are some mentors or some people that you look up to in terms of either their videography skills or their style or you know, their ability to create a story
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so definitely, when I was trying to figure out the programs you know, how to use Premiere Pro. I watched a lot of tutorials so my What do you call this on YouTube? My pretty cool that on the homepage or I don't know like the suggestion yet a suggestions? Yeah. So this guy named Casey nice that popped up. It was a snowboarding video around the city. So you know, it was snowing and these guys were on the city. Yeah, so he was being pulled on. While he was on a snowboard, so I watched it. Yeah. I was like, Oh, this guy's seems pretty cool. So I watched all his videos from beginning to end, or to recent and then that's
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how it Yeah. Casey nice that he was one of the bigger influencers for you.
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Yeah terms of your, you know, the imperfections in his cinematography, but the storytelling was dare
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I say yes. And that's what you aspire to have is, you know, the storytelling piece, right. Yeah. I think this conversation is like, we were talking specific things about like, the videography and who's inspired you and stuff. But I think a lot of it I wanted to touch on is how you have decided that this is going to be the route that you want to take because with with other people, like friends that I have, they have a lot of career jobs, so called career jobs where they're sitting in behind a desk every day. Yeah, or, you know, they have a nine to five. It's a structured De and I lived that life before. And for you to decide that this is what you want to do. Obviously, it was driven by passion rather than the necessity to have a job or to follow societal
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That Tell me more about that.
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Well, I've always been the kid who's
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always been separated from the group because I was always, you know, the, the clown. You know, like I said, I was always making beats. So my, my teachers would tell me to stop, and two minutes later, I'm still I'm always, you know, trying to, I'm always a different one, I guess, in the class. And I remember just, like a teacher, teachers given us papers, like, you know, like questions. And one of the questions was, what do you want to be when you grow up and I wasn't happy? And I was one of those things that, you know, I think it was in a movie also. Yeah, I forgot what it was. But yeah, it was. That's me.
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Was it the pursuit of happiness. Maybe.
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Yeah, yeah, totally. Yeah. So now that you're you've been doing this for how long now?
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So I've been doing video for three years now. Right?
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Yeah. Where? What level? Do you want to be like? Where is your ideal once you're done, girl? Well, I mean, you're there. I don't think you'll ever be done growing. But where is the point where you're like, I'm kind of good here. Like the level of professionalism, you know, skill. You know, places that you've been, what does that look like?
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Oh, definitely. I want to be in a Netflix series. I want to direct something from you know, on Netflix. That's cool. Yeah. That's cool. No, I mean, hopefully it grows from there. Like if I reached that point, obviously, I'm gonna be Oh, let's say I want to make movies now. Yeah, but yeah, for sure. Netflix. Yeah,
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yeah. Now, would you say because you live in New York? I don't know. You're kind of like on Long Island. So it's a bit further away from the city but living in New York, would you say that affords you more opportunity or is it harder now, we talked about A little bit.
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Yeah, definitely. It's it's a competition, you would have to push yourself because there's so many great artists. Yeah, that's why I love collaborating with them. I love watching those artists. Yeah. It's kind of like a weird way for me, you know, like, all right, I gotta be better than that.
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It's like my weird little thing. Yeah. Well, you know why they call Vancouver Hollywood north, right? Because this is the Canadian version of like, what LA or something. There's just so much going on here all the time. So I think you should move here personally.
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I mean, all movies are filmed out here, which is not fair. Yeah, it's true.
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It's true. But I think that would be cool. I wouldn't obviously I would love to have you here. But yeah, we'll see down the road. Right. Yeah. I wanted to go in some deeper questions. I know, you had, you know, watched another interview you're filming. And I wanted to ask you a little bit about it because of the transition from doing something that maybe you didn't want to be doing to something you're very passionate about. So if you met your younger self today, what would make them happy and sad about you?
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Well, definitely happy to see me that I am following what I want. Now pursuing that relentlessly. And the sad part is in that pursuit of what I want, you know, pursuing my passions relentlessly. I've lost so many friends along the way. So really caused me a lot of, you know, isolation, a lot of you know, like loneliness and being in New York. Like, I don't have family out there. Right. Right. So if I felt like if I was in that situation here, definitely be easier. You know
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what, cuz you got asked, right? Yeah, that's really interesting, because, I mean, I hear it all the time. It's kind of cliche, but you know, rising to the top is a lonely journey. It's a learning journey, a lonely journey or something like that. And that's kind of unfortunate because you would think that, you know, friends would be happy for your progress or whatever. But would you say that was almost something that you impose on yourself, even by accident because you were just so driven Enter to be very good at what you do or where you thought, as you mentioned before, maybe it was because it's just so competitive in your field.
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Yet Well, yeah, I mean, I want people to be happy from Yeah, I want, you know, like praise, you know, who doesn't want praise? Yeah, yeah, of course, at the same time in the field, like such a competition that you want to be better than your friends. But there has to be a balance, you know, you have to push each other and pretty much Yeah,
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But I guess I don't have that. Yeah. I'm pushing myself. But then my friends are like, you know, like, he's got, he's got a better job and got a first I don't have a job. I'm like, you know, it's whatever.
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Yeah, I think honestly, perhaps, I mean, you can't put that on you, obviously. But yeah. There are certain people that are just gonna always be, I don't know if it's competitive, but also just envious, right. And those are the people that will eventually grow out of your friendships. Yeah. And as you said, you kind of lose friends along the way around. So but I think that's that collateral damage. I don't know if that's the right term, but you, you, you pursue what you need to do. And the people that fall off are kind of the ones that probably, you know, won't stick around anyway, long. Yeah.
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And I've learned to, you know, not take it personally, because that's true. early on. I've taken it personally, like, like, I'm like, I thought to myself that why am I like, Am I wrong? Yeah, you know, and there's a lot of like, second guessing, like all my personality. And that comes with, like, you know, like learning how to self love, you know, right. That's where it started to.
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Yeah, I like that word, self love. I think that it's an underused, perhaps term or people don't understand it quite well enough. Yeah. At the end of the day, like I've had, I've lost friends along the way too. And, and at the end of the day, you have to figure out what's going to work for you because they're not going to pay your bills. I mean, just just as a simplistic way of putting it putting it. They're not you know, who's looking out for you. You like the end of the day. That's it right?
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What Do you think
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makes a person most attractive? attractive?
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Well, definitely from the previous interview that I've had, I'm gonna take it. So yeah, definitely, um, when I see someone passionate, you know, just you just see their spirit coming out of themselves. And it's just, you know, looking the twinkle in their eyes, you know, like the smile on your face when they're doing what they love. Yeah, it's they're just free flowing. They're confident. You know, they're just themselves, you know, they're working inward and outward. Right,
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right. If, if you were to, you know, meet somebody who you install is very passionate, but they were very passionate about videography. They're in the same field as you Yeah. Would you say that that's a good thing or a bad thing? Because then I get the reason why I'm asking is perhaps what does that what if that's all you guys talk about?
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Yeah. Yeah, if you asked me this question maybe three years ago back on I can't do it. Yeah, additive, but at this point, I feel like, you know, if someone pushes you, someone critique your work in a good way and you think about it, you're like, Okay, well, maybe they're right. Maybe that's somebody that, you know, I want to be with, you know, that's true. Maybe eventually you could start your own production company. Yeah. Run the world. Right. What does that what was that quote that you mentioned earlier? build an empire together, right? Yeah. Just as far as Absolutely. ameesha Yeah,
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working on it. We're working. It'll happen with the podcast, right? Yeah. Well, hopefully you guys listening out there. You hear that? We're working on it. So how attractive would you say you are on that scale? So you're saying that is what's attractive to you is the passion for something very important to them. Where do you rate yourself on that scale?
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Oh my god. I'm a 10.
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Honestly, man, there you go.
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Yeah, you just I just don't care if you know if I'm falling trip or my gear.
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Like a keep moving, keep going, right? Yeah. I love that, man. I love it. And I think passion shows up in your work. I think that's why some of the stuff that you've done has been so good is because when you're passionate about something, your work will reflect that. Yeah, right. All right.
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My next question is, what are you most proud of right now that most people don't know about?
Unknown Speaker 28:25
Definitely, my, the perseverance, you know, like, the failures, I love my failures. I would always much of my failures first before my success, and just how I got out of, you know, uh, to, you know, that school, you know, like, academic probation. And, you know, there's going to be more failures in the future. And, you know, hopefully, the past failures and how I got out of is, you know, I could apply that in the future.
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Would you say there was certain influences in your life that helped you get in the right mind frame for getting past some of these failures that you felt that you had to go through for like, all
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I saw to some of my friends before but I got rejected. See 2013 I got rejected by this girl that I liked, you know, like, obviously I let it play out longer let it linger probably should have asked about the first few days. Like I didn't want to ask anybody right back then. But you know, eventually I got rejected and you know, obviously broke me, right? And that's where it started like, you know, like, why am I you know, so that just that just pushed me out just for like that got
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that drive. Got me my internship pretty much interesting. So it was it's a I can I can relate because I've obviously been rejected to multiple times on my in my path. So I totally know the feeling. And it's interesting how, whether it's a breakup or a rejection of some kind. It really does spark a fuckin light on fire. asteroid you
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because crazy I feel like right? Like, how dare you reject me? Right? Let me prove it to you by the successful Yeah.
Unknown Speaker 30:08
And it's and it's it seems a little bit crazy, but at the time or in the moment, but it's amazing how something that seems so negative in the meantime, or in the moment is a catalyst for so much positive change. And I think it's happened to me literally every single time. So yeah, I've had, I don't know, multiple failed relationships but every single time I've either gotten better as a person or I've learned to filter out certain people that I probably wouldn't date anymore and it's come out I've come out on the other end with either, you know, more drive for whatever I'm trying to accomplish or something like that. Right. So, yeah, so I'm glad that we we are on the same page now and what do you what do you feel in your life is in working progress right now?
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Looking progress? Definitely, definitely long enough. But, um, I think I'm further out than I was a year ago. I've learned not to rely on other people. I've learned to not view loneliness as loneliness. You know, maybe look at it as freedom. Because you have all these, you know, you're by yourself. So you have the freedom to do whatever the hell you want. Right? Right. You're eating in solitude, you know, you're freeing your thoughts. And you're just, you know, learn how to embrace your thoughts pretty much
Unknown Speaker 31:23
right? I think that's, that's actually really interesting. You say that because I camera what podcasts are conversation I was listening to, but almost like that silence in your head is almost more deafening than then you know, just actual silence. Yeah. Because when you're in silence, and you're just laying there, let's say in bed or something, your mind's going a mile a minute, and not able to shut it off. Like I know sometimes for me, if I wake up in the middle night, because Cruz's crying or something, I have such a hard time going back to sleep. And a lot of my thoughts are just running around, okay, well, what can I do? How can I improve this? How can I change things and you're saying embracing that silence and being able to take control of those thoughts and turn them into something more productive,
Unknown Speaker 32:05
and maybe not even controlling your thoughts because
Unknown Speaker 32:07
we can't control we can't control who we are like, I look at it as an ocean like our thoughts are oceans their waves. You can't control wave right there. Yeah, it's common. So you just gotta let it let it sit. You just got to get a think about your thoughts. All right, one more thing in this. Yeah, you know. Yeah. So just let it happen. Right.
Unknown Speaker 32:31
That's cool. And I appreciate that you share that because not a lot of people would share the fact that loneliness is a challenge or that's something that's a work in progress, and being able to embrace that and understand how that is impactful in your life.
Unknown Speaker 32:46
What would this What are you most excited about right now?
Unknown Speaker 32:49
Well, I mean,
Unknown Speaker 32:50
I'm excited for this new decade feels like a new slate.
Unknown Speaker 32:53
Unknown Speaker 32:54
opportunities. And then you know, I'm working remote so I could see you guys Everybody was just just doing it just coming here.
Unknown Speaker 33:03
And obviously we would love for you to be here more often. Right? Yeah. So now so we can collab.
Unknown Speaker 33:10
Unknown Speaker 33:13
So I got a few other questions. And I love asking these questions to everybody because again, I think they're really very thought provoking. And really insightful on you know, what makes you tick. So, if you had the world's attention for 30 seconds right now, what would you say?
Unknown Speaker 33:34
Unknown Speaker 33:36
Just take it easy now. Just
Unknown Speaker 33:40
don't? What do you call this? Be yourself, obviously. And just don't take life too seriously. Don't take life too seriously. It's, it's kind of, it's quick. It's like a snap.
Unknown Speaker 33:54
Yeah. And then you know, don't overreact to things. You know, just let it happen and then sit through that. Storm you know, right? And just don't react to anger. I mean, you could be angry just punch you know.
Unknown Speaker 34:06
You got a bunch of anger behind you.
Unknown Speaker 34:08
Perfect. Yeah, this
Unknown Speaker 34:11
that anger just passed that sadness pass you know, because it'll just be better on the other end
Unknown Speaker 34:17
Yeah, I know that's that's that's actually really really interesting because letting it pass Can you see it again? What did you say it was letting anger it up and
Unknown Speaker 34:25
letting letting your emotions pass letting it be letting it just let it be.
Unknown Speaker 34:31
It is an acceptance of the fact that those things will happen those emotions you will feel them
Unknown Speaker 34:36
and they're meant to be they're meant to happen to strong like you. I remember you sharing something I asked you Can I Can I steal this from you? What was it was a post saying? Like I prayed to God about all these things and then he asked them through challenges. You can ask them through scheels has written through direct answers, answered them challenges. Yeah. And I've taken that to heart. So every time I've experienced all these challenges, I look back and it's like me why says all it was because I've asked for better confidence. And he's given me all these rejections. Right. And they might, you know, they hurt as hell. But now I feel you know, I'm actually, you
Unknown Speaker 35:18
know, truly confident on the other end, like you said, it comes out better than the other. Yeah. That's so cool, man. I'm glad that you remember that. That's interesting. And that's how I've managed I think, to obviously, subconsciously, I don't I didn't I don't remember that quote, all the time. But subconsciously, I think I've applied that. So that's really awesome. And if someone could ask you a question that you want to be asked or wished you could be asked, but without question.
Unknown Speaker 35:46
How did you do it? How did you do it? Yeah. What would your answer be? Just say, yes. Persevere.
Unknown Speaker 35:54
Yeah, just Just do it. Just get out of it. You know, whatever you got to do. Get yourself out of that hole, and then you know, and then while you're digging yourself out a hole, just remember, you're exactly where you want to be, man. I mean, you're exactly where you need to be where you're supposed to be at that moment. If you're digging yourself out of that hole, you are supposed to be there digging out of yourself.
Unknown Speaker 36:16
Yeah. And then something on the on the other side is, you know, going to be better for you. Yeah,
Unknown Speaker 36:23
you man, I'm glad that we're able to connect. Obviously, your skills as a videographer is, is is great because now we're able to use some of that but you your visit here is short and we will hang out and I'm glad that kind of had all this stuff going on already so that I could talk to you a little bit and share some of your story because there's so much to learn from taking things and doing things differently and I think that's what you done is done things differently and not just gone the conventional route. So awesome. And I'm so I'm sad that you're leaving today. But obviously, we'll keep in touch and stuff. We have all this stuff that we have that you know, we can Live on even remotely honestly, dude.
Unknown Speaker 37:01
Yeah, I'm glad you that you're doing this because I has, you know, have so many ideas to be honest. Yeah, video and audio goes they go well together so yeah,
Unknown Speaker 37:10
yeah, I just don't like how my face looks when I'm talking so that's why it's alright man last question. Yeah and I love to ask this everybody What is your definition of living your best and fittest life?
Unknown Speaker 37:24
Well for me the fittest does not apply it the fit part. I definitely want to apply that, you know, in this next decade at least. But my definition would be just meeting new people of meeting people, you know, because that opens up your world a lot. Learning from any age group does you learn a lot of you know, through kids through obviously elderly is anybody it's learned yet growth of learning. Yeah.
Unknown Speaker 37:54
Love it, man. All right. You got anything else you want to share with us?
Unknown Speaker 38:00
That's my Instagram is Oh yeah,
Unknown Speaker 38:01
how do we get ahold of this guy? How are we gonna get ahold of this guy? All right, how can I get in touch with this dude?
Unknown Speaker 38:07
So yeah, you can reach me on Instagram. At this is Julius right.
Unknown Speaker 38:13
So Julius like Julius Caesar, right? Yeah. And this is th is is is all right all. Of course, I'll have all the stuff on the show notes too. So perfect. Anywhere else besides Instagram. That's all. That's all man. All right. Thanks, man for coming here on the podcast. Appreciate it. Thank you. All right, guys. That is my interview with my cousin JC I'm so happy we were able to do this during his short visit here to Vancouver from New York. I really appreciate his openness about his path to where he is now. And honestly, I really hope him and I can work together more down the road and put our skills together and make some amazing content for you guys. Sophie united vam This is my fun way of serving you guys that doesn't require you to be sitting at your phone. scrolling up and down mindlessly, you can listen on the go while you can be Getting during your workout, having a bath, or whatever. I love communicating and being able to talk and listen to you guys. And that's what gets me fired up every day. So with that in mind, if you have any topic suggestions for the podcast, or have any questions or comments, send me a voice message on the anchor app. Send me a message on facebook.com slash fit united on Instagram at Kevin green dot fitness or at V united or on our website fit united.com And lastly, don't forget to subscribe on your favorite podcast app. Alright, Kevin here signing out. I will see you guys on the next one.